Monday, 1 August 2011

Opposite genders can't be "just friends"

I've got to say, I'm amazed by this person who entered the Yahoo! chatroom 20s Love: 2. Here is the conversation (with all the unnecessary bots and spam cut out).

vassoran joined the room.
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:41:54): hi cancer
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:41:57): Hello
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:42:00): whats up
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:42:07): Oh ok
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:42:10): not much
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:42:12): you?
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:42:20): just being bored lol
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:42:26): nice nice
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:42:30): can i message u
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:42:46): I have them turned off and they get put in here so might as well just chat here
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:43:01): well i can show u my cam if u message me? or add me
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:43:09): why does everyone like the box??
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:43:16): I dont know
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:43:19): would you want to see cancer?
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:43:25): oh u do tooo
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:43:28): I dontlike the box you can only fit one other person and i prefer here
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:43:41): See what?
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:43:41): so sad cancer
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:43:44): my webcam
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:43:53): I mean I would rather talk and meet 1 cool person
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:44:18): add me if u want to
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:44:23): have to go through the "Idiots" to get to the kewl person
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:44:33): im not an idiot lol
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:44:39): this baby ran off with my string cheese
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:44:43): What a theif
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:44:53): I didnt say you were line
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:44:54): I think some people in here are 2 obsessed with yahoo chat
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:45:03): I met a woman off yahoo like 3 weeks ago
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:45:03): ohh u dont want to see me though huh?
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:45:09): we were having a drink
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:45:13): see you as in cam?
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:45:17): yes lol
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:45:27): and she pulls out her cell phone and shows me her yahoo contact list
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:45:28): ---stupid icky cam pusher here
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:45:31): I dont like looking at cam
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:45:33): Mew
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:45:34): I was like WOW ARE U FUCKING KIDDING ME?
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:45:43): ohh
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:45:46): Guys tend to get pervy
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:45:54): well i wont its just my face lol
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:45:54): I mean we're hanging out and talking
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:45:58): they start let me show you my face
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:46:00): and she has to check her yahoo contact list?
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:05): then let me show you my uppper body
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:08): oh let me show you...
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:46:09): whatever lol
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:10): Uh no
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:17): LOL
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:46:19): I usually dance on web cam
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:46:23): i thought u like that
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:46:30): with my mickey mouse hat on
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:46:34): into those pics and shit
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:34): I like to see peoples faces kt
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:46:45): ohhhhhh
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:46:51): I get curious espeacially if we have talked mutiple times
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:46:55): havin much luck with that
kkline1140 (01/08/2011 16:47:00): if you got to know me u would see
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:47:00): I like to see who I am talking to
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:47:12): ???
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:47:29): You are the only one who fights my system kt
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:47:31): the whole point in talking to someone of the opposite sex is if all goes well u end up fucking
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:47:42): No vass I dont agree
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:47:47): so of course u want to see them
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:47:52): cancer it's how guys role
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:47:54): the system i like that
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:48:01): they will play the FRIENDSHIP ROLE
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:48:08): but eventually they will try and make a move
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:48:27): yeah julia what out for the move
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:48:29): sooner or later
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:48:36): watch
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:48:44): its commin
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:49:05): Lol Im gonna have to start wearing belts
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:49:11): it's impossible for a woman and a man to be JUST FRIENDS without 1 or the other or both having other motives
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:49:15): with a giant buckle that says yea right mister
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:49:25): I have male friends
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:49:26): back the fuck off
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:49:34): it should say
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:49:35): alright im back
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:49:36): which means ur not good enough to be more for them
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:49:38): wb
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:49:41): or vice versa
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:49:47): It's not impossible. I have loads of females friends, and neither I or they have made a move on one another
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:49:53): I think its possible to just be friends
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:49:56): I mean if you're such a great woman why would they just want to be FRIENDS?
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:50:16): because we have too much history and they are like my brothers
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:50:20): it would be weird
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:50:26): women with a lot of guy friends are whores that the guy friends know are whores and don't wanna waste their emotions
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:50:53): julia will u be my sister too
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:50:58): pffft being friends with guys doesnt make you a whore
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:50:59): wow who is this retard vassoran
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:01): I know when a girl wants to be JUST FRIENDS with me, I take it as a personal insult
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:51:16): That's just you're an idiot
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:19): I am not good enough to be more than they are not good enough to be my friends
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:51:20): well i dont want to be friends with you at all what does that mean?
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:51:27): You are very close minded
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:33): no
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:36): I am realistic
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:51:42): thats not realiztic
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:45): I have experienced way 2 many situations
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:51:47): Nah. You're an idiot
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:51:56): tidan leave your basement
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:52:00): actually date a few girls
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:52:14): he sounds like googly
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:52:17): hmmm
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:52:20): yes he does kt
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:52:28): wow
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:52:29): I sound like a what?
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:52:30): I have dated girls, and I have female friends...and it's perfectly possible to be just friends
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:52:32): I didnt even realize that
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:52:40): he does and he is using the same font lol
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:52:43): julia
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:52:51): Jay
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:52:58): You know some really fucked up people if just friends isn't possible
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:52:59): i can spell him from a mile away
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:53:01): ok just checkin if i was on iggy
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:53:05): smell
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:53:06): lol
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:53:12): Lol no I safe listed you a long time ago lol
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:53:21): tidan when someone of the opposite sex wants to be just friends
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:53:34): it means you're not good enough for more
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:53:43): or they are saving you as a possibly future OPTION
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:53:43): So?
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:53:46): women like options
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:53:49): you take it as an insult if you are into them but if its mutual to just be friends?
Ann (01/08/2011 16:54:01): so does men
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:54:14): the women I want to be friends with are women I am not attracted to and I know they are into me
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:54:23): and usually the women I am into, aren't into me like that
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:54:26): just an endless cycle
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:54:38): they only want to be your friend cuze your a fuckkin little dick head
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:54:45): I will be friends with women who are in relationships, but as soon as that starts to fall apart
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:54:47): karma
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:54:49): they try to date me then
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:55:08): as a rebound that doesnt mean anything
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:55:10): googly tell someone who cares
ghetto.soldier (01/08/2011 16:55:13): well here is what you do vassoran get yourself a blow up doll and you will never have to face rejectioon
cancercoatedbandaid (01/08/2011 16:55:26): exactly Jay
vassoran (01/08/2011 16:55:31): they will be like "well I liked you all along, just was in a relationship"
kt4133 (01/08/2011 16:55:37): googly who u stalkin these days
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:55:56): Ya know what, fuck this.
tidan_likida (01/08/2011 16:56:07): Much better!

Is it really impossible for men and women to be friends? I've never thought so. I have 100s of female friends online, and I'm not friends with them because I want them all. For me, it's not impossible to be just friends. It really saddens me that some people can't just be friends with someone of the opposite gender. Why is it only possible to be friends if secretly you or the other person want to be together? How closed minded is that thinking?

At the end of the conversation, when I said "Ya know what, fuck this.", I ended up putting the guy on ignore. He's one of those people who give guys a bad name, making them look like they can only be friends with a female if they know they have a chance at getting sex from them.

Vass clearly has major issues with women, having that closed minded mentality. He most likely doesn't have many friends of the opposite gender (or even the same gender) if he's going to look at people in that way.

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